Take the Plunge
Today's Blog is dedicated to this past Saturday's discussion at my synagogue.
Kudos to anyone who can tell me why this pillow is on sale and what it has to do with the speech I heard.
What is the connection between this husband and wife and "the speech"?
Here's the question that I've been thinking about since that speech:
Would I really do everything my husband asks, just because he asks or do I need an explanation for it?
I don't need explanations all the time because most of the time the reason he is requesting something from me is obvious. For example, "Could you add light bulbs to the grocery list?
I don't ask why because I know why.
This is NOT the same as just doing something simply because he asks me.
If he said, "Could you take $750 cash out of the ATM on Monday", I definitely would ask, "Why?". Does that mean there is something inherently wrong in our relationship?
Absolutely not. It's natural to ask "why".
If he said, "no reason, just do it", I'm not sure that I would.
It would not be wrong to ask, it would be wrong to provide no answer.
I could make up reasons, but it would be better for me to hear the real reason.
And that's what I'd like to know - what is the "real reason"...
So - speech giver - what is the REAL reason?
I know - you'll say - we don't have the capacity to know the "real reason" - we do because we're supposed to -
That, to me, is very unsatisfying....
Comments are welcome and encouraged....
That's why religion is so hard. It's all faith with no real explanation. And why the pillow relates...as my mother would say, "If your friend/spouse/rabbi asked you to jump off a cliff, would you?"
ReplyDeleteHaddie - interesting idea. However, I don't really see the analogy to jumping off a cliff. If my friend/spouse/rabbi asked me to do something I may not do it, but, if I was 5 years old and my parent told me not to touch the stove, I may not know why, but I should probably follow that advice without question.
ReplyDeleteG-d knows infinitely more than I am capable of ever knowing, so that is why I try to just listen and do. I can question, I can think of explanations why it is a good idea, but in the end following the directions of someone who is good, wise and has my best interest at heart probably makes more sense than not to follow it.